Here Are Two Ways To Avoid Swedish Loneliness

When I moved to Sweden, I said goodbye to friends, family, and a loving relationship. I am not going to lie, some days were pretty lonely. Sweden is known for their stereotypes of reserved and quiet people. In San Francisco, I created strong and deep connections with my close friends in a short period of time. In comparison, it’s been difficult to create the same level of connection. There are two practices I incorporated into my life to help turn my sense of loneliness into solitude when moving to Lund.

Creativity

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“Creativity is my way of sharing my soul with the world.” – Brene Brown.

I think authentic connection arises when someone resonates with your creativity. Creativity is 100% my own and because of its originality by nature, I am able to find quality connections.

If you’ve been reading my blog, you know that my biggest creative endeavor was creating my own yoga company: the Lund Yoga Community. The process has been really difficult to embrace. I’ve had zero experience in starting a business. However, I do have a passion for teaching yoga. I decided to combine my passion for teaching yoga and my value of service to create something that benefits others.

Through this practice, I started to surround myself with people who genuinely sought connection from my creativity. This type of connection feels super authentic. In doing so, I believe these connection are the strongest connections I’ve created being in Sweden. This experience has given me an opportunity to feel worthy instead of searching for my worthiness, especially from a place of loneliness.

Gratitude

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“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” - Melody Beattie

Lund is a place full of opportunity, and your creativity is the path to unlocking this opportunity. Gratitude is the key to keep going when failures arise. Personally, I’ve failed so many times with the Lund Yoga Community.

My power of creativity is only as powerful as my strength to be grateful. My practice of gratitude allows me to appreciate whatever comes up in my life. Even on the saddest and darker days, I remind myself that these negative feelings are normal. Sometimes, my creativity doesn’t bring me the connections I hope for, but I still try and focus on how grateful I feel for the opportunity to be creative.

Feedback

I find it extremely useful to use creativity and gratitude as a feedback loop to transform loneliness into a sense of solitude. Solitude and loneliness are the same – it’s just our relationship with our feelings that make one worse than the other. If we can accept that we are always alone in our solitude, then there is nothing wrong with the way you may be feeling. With this new acceptance of solitude from practicing creativity and gratitude, you will create authentic connections here in Sweden!

Thanks for reading 🙂
Drew Teller